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How to Use Positive Affirmations.Positive Affirmations, how do they work? What changes can I expect?
Affirmations are one of the tools you can use to radically change your life. There is nothing new age, mystic, trendy or fashionable about them. Affirmation is part of an ancient ‘ Secret’, re-discovered and brought back to the limelight by TV. film and press, transforming with it several people into very wealthy gurus.
Affirmations have been around since man found the use of language and there is no secret ritual to use them.
You can basically have anything you want! This tool, if used correctly, will help you change, grow, and heal yourself.
I want to introduce you to the basics of positive affirmation and positive thinking. Later on you may want to surf the web and find out more about this fascinating subject.
When you start the affirmations, give yourself at least a thirty day tryout period. Depending on the seriousness of the problem you may need more time and more affirmations to achieve your goals. Talk to your family and friends about your resolution to change and ask them for their support. If it is a radical change you are envisioning a life-coach will be very useful suggesting the best approach to use and to keep you motivated. This is a big step. Opening up to relatives and friends show your commitment to change and solidify your intentions.
Don’t get discouraged, impatient or put off if nothing happens in a week or two. Just remember that you didn’t become this way overnight.
Affirmations can and will transform your life patterns and perception.
Affirmations support your positive thinking and together they form a very powerful and effective tool. They function as ‘key words’ of positive messages ‘dictated’ directly to the self. You consciously connect and direct your positive thinking to areas of your life that you want to change or heal. It works as a reminder to the self, keeping positive messages at the forefront of consciousness.
The benefits of affirmations are medically well established and really work.
On the other hand negative thoughts are just as powerful. So be aware of your negative thoughts as they are in essence self-destructive ‘key words:’ psychological mechanisms that make your life rotten.
First, let's check how aware you are of your thoughts.
Do you regularly have more positive or more negative thoughts running through you mind?
Only you can honestly answer that. So get ready.
If your subconscious is throwing out lots of negative thoughts then you must do some ‘brain-cleaning’ before moving into the desired new positive affirmation mode.
This may be very familiar to you, as your mind swirls with thoughts like: “I don’t like this, I like that, I feel great, I hate him/her, I am afraid of, I don’t want them to see me like this, I am not sure about that, I feel rotten”.
Your mind incessantly interprets your experiences as an internal dialogue. These thoughts are generated on a deep level by your beliefs which were formed and accumulated from the time you were born.
We can’t control most exterior events of our lives but we do control how we interpret and react to them.
We create our own reality.
When we change our interpretation a change takes place in our reality.
So become aware of your thoughts. If you change your thinking, big changes will happen in your life.
Take a minute to think about why you are reacting to something or someone.
Get in touch with yourself. Accept the fact that these thoughts may have helped you in the past but they are out of place now that you have chosen to accept only positive thoughts and positive living.
While doing the new affirmations your mind will let go of the negative messages even if you are not aware if it.
Watch out also for resistance within yourself. With certain affirmations you may question, “What in the heck” – “are you kidding?”
It is ok, it is an old habit that is about to be changed. You grew up and had these thoughts for almost all of your life. Now it is time to form a new habit and you need lots of practice.
Let's get started.
What would you like your life to be?
Think about it and write it down.
Fulfillment with your job, a happy family, better health, financial security?
Don’t hold back, go for it.
For the beginners the easiest way is to choose and write down two or three things you want changed.
For example, if you feel unloved and financially strapped, one of your affirmations could be: “ I am now ready to receive more love and wealth” and you may add “from the vast supply of the universe”.
If you also wrote down ‘low self-esteem’ the affirmation could be: “I am an awesome man/woman and I feel good about myself”.
Be creative, upfront and fearless. You are making a statement to yourself of your intentions.
Here are a few simple guidelines:
1- Present tense. Start all your affirmations in the present tense and have them already accomplished. You are telling your conscious mind that the affirmative action is taking place NOW and it is final. I AM HAPPY, I CHOOSE JOY, I HAVE CONFIDENCE. It is stronger and much more powerful than, I will be happy, or I am becoming happy, and so on.
2- How to phrase your affirmations. You can copy from an extensive list you’ll find on the Internet, use the examples below or simply write it down in your own words. Do it as plainly or as poetically as you speak. “ I am energetic and full of enthusiasm. I am safe, I am a prosperous man/woman. I attract positive people, I release my anger.” Make copies of it and leave it around the house, car and your office desk. The more you are reminded of the positive affirmations the more your mind will accept the new concept you are bringing forth. You will create a new positive reality and the universal energy will do the rest to connect this good energy to other positive energies.
3- Positive means Positive. Your subconscious usually focuses on the verb and relates it to past experiences. If you have fears, phobias or whatever, be careful with your choice of words. If you are afraid and say I am not SCARED, it will register I AM SCARED. The NOT was assimilated and ignored by your mind. Say instead I AM COURAGEOUS or I AM FEARLESS. Don’t use affirmations that have a negative attachment. You can comfortably use I ACCEPT, I CHOOSE, I DESERVE, I AM. I developed one affirmation to counteract the negative thought that eventually peeks through, so I suggest you add it to the batch, “I ACCEPT ONLY THE GOOD AND THE POSITIVE.”
Starting as you wake up, say the affirmations out loud or in your head five times. Repeat the same process three to four more times during the day, the last one just before going to bed.
I suggest you end the affirmation session with a thank you note. Gratitude will reinforce and validate the affirmations. Thank God, Jesus, a Spirit, the Force, the Universe or whatever you believe and feel comfortable with.
Visualize your affirmations with feelings and emotion. See yourself exactly as you are stating. It will add an extra psychological dimension and have a much deeper impact on your mind. Using this method of visualization early in the morning and at night will make your affirmations much more successful.
You can use affirmations to help build self-confidence, self-esteem, self-improvement and personal growth. It can also help conquer your fears and anger management. Affirmations have been successfully used to relieve anxiety and depression and are an excellent tool for weight control.
If you check the web under Positive Affirmations you’ll find a multitude of books and affirmations to help you. I suggest Louise Hay’s http://www.aplacefortheheart.co.uk/ and http://www.dreamyourlifepositively.com/
Here are a few examples of affirmations by topics:
Love
“I am ready to love and to be loved”
"I am surrounded by love"
"I love and accept myself exactly as I am"
"The love I give out returns to me multiplied"
"I am a loving, beautiful creative person and this is reflected in my relationships with others"
“ I am now ready to receive more love, support and wealth from the vast supply of the universe”
“I see the beauty in my surroundings and I radiate joy and love”
Wealth
"I deserve all that is good and prosperous in my life"
"Money flows to me from expected and unexpected sources"
“I deserve to collect all the wealth and the rich rewards of my success”
"My income is constantly increasing"
“I am well, I prosper, I am successful and I am free”
"Abundance, like a river flows in my life"
“I allow all the immense wealth and goodness of the universe to easily flow into myself”
Self-esteem – personal
“I now have the power to bring about all the positive changes in my life I desire”
“I am protected, guided, and connected with the highest good at all times”
“My personality is radiant with success, beauty and happiness”
“I am an awesome man/woman and I feel good about myself”
“I am at peace with my choices and what life throws in my path”
“I recognize and honor my talents, abilities, and skills”
“I choose to live my life the way that makes me happy”
“I am positively changing my life now, for the better in every possible way.
Have a great journey
Much love
Ton Pascal
Ton Pascal is a self thought , self help advocate and author.
“My goal is to help as many people as possible how to stop living on the periphery of life.
Dream Your Life Positively will show you how to stop living on the periphery of yourself.
Your thoughts and dreams will provide for you a rich, meaningful and abundant life; this is the Law of Attraction at work. It will enable you to create the map of your life’s journey. It is not just being alive that makes life worth living, but the depth and sense you bring to your life.”
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Fearless In Difficult Times.
By Ton Pascal
Am I making the right choice?
Should I change directions and line of work, or should I look for another job?
When things are not what you used to know, and difficult times surround you at every turn, it is normal that you start questioning yourself and your motivation.
BUT it is then that you need to see YOU for who you really are.
First of all, you need to believe in yourself 100%.
You will also need a good dose of strong motivation, lots of positive thinking and positive attitude.
Simple no?
Yes, very much so, if you have, or are willing to learn how to put the above prerequisites to work.
This task can be very intimidating for people who are not very organized or detail oriented.
If this is your case, talk to your friends and family about your situation. They can be a positive support. Or, it may be time to think about bringing in a life coach.
Your fear and resistance will try to push you back and a strong supporter will make a huge difference in achieving your goals.
This much talk about spiritual evolution didn’t start for nothing.
Like it or not, we do live in a very physical, ordinary and dirty world.
If we look at statistics from the National Alliance for the Mentally Ill, Ca., 37,000 Americans die by their own hand each year, one every 16 minutes. Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the U.S.A. and the third ranking killer of young people. People aged 65 and older accounted for 16% of suicide deaths in 2004 alone. Of nearly 16,000 violent deaths occurring in 16 states, 56% were suicides.
The difficult times we are facing in our world right now require a more spiritual approach to our everyday lives, I cannot emphasize it enough.
More then ever, we need to assert ourselves and find our inner peace.
When some people tell you “don’t be a cry baby, life is good,”
what you really want to do is to slap them.
You have a mortgage, or a payment due, taxes, the wife’s card, kid’s school, and God knows what, and there is no money in the bank.
And life is good?
It sucks!!!
“There are three ingredients in the good life: learning, earning and yearning,” said Christopher Morley.
Being a spiritual self help advocate doesn’t mean I disagree with you. We are on the same reality page.
Here are a few easy and practical things I suggest you can do to make it through these difficult times:
1- Gratitude. Use this simple formula of Positive Attitude and gratitude. You know what it means, this positive thinking and attitude jargon. You are not a moron, but what we often forget is to give thanks for all that we have in life.
Don’t resist changes and situations, it only brings anxiety and pain.
Each time you are thankful, you transform that moment into positive energy, which then will transform your life.
2- Positive Affirmations. Use positive affirmations as much as possible. Do them from getting up to when you go to bed. It will imprint in your brain a new ‘positive attitude route’ to follow. You may encounter resistance from your old self to this new path, but don’t resist, and be thankful that you have these choices, and it is you who designs and creates your own reality.
Make a selection of positive affirmations and paste them around your house. I have a list of them on my blog, Dream Your Life Positively, feel free to copy it.
You can start with these:
I am good, I am beautiful and I am successful.
I am grateful for my life. I am grateful for myself.
I accept only what is good and positive.
3- Visualize. Visualize your life and everything you want in a perfect state of completion. Sounds, smells, tastes, bring all these sensations into your dream. The richer and more vivid your visualizations, the sooner you will experience them in your real life.
Breathe deeply and rhythmically when doing your visualizations.
Deep breathing is like a deep inner cleansing. It purifies your body and your mind of all negative thoughts and feelings.
4- Meditate. In a state of relaxation, slowly bring up your problems. Learn how to look into them as a spectator. Again, don’t resist. Let them come and go without being emotionally involved with them. Don’t judge the scenarios and action playing in your mind. They are neither good nor bad. Observe them, you don’t want to control what is happening. They are situations and different options that make life interesting as it is.
Your mortgage, your overdue bills, family problems will be there tomorrow, but you are now able to look at them from a different angle.
Your newly learned unemotional focus allows your mind to be clear of despairing thoughts and emotions.
The above exercises have the power to move things around and these desperate challenges become positive opportunities for learning.
You now welcome and give thanks for this new opening in your life.
It may seem a little simplistic, the above steps, but your challenge is to do it time after time and every day of your life.
There are no easy answers or quick fixes for difficult situations, but with this understanding you are a step closer to inner peace.
You were created with wonderful qualities.
You are star stuff, pure energy, and a divine creation.
Open yourself up and let this positive energy flow free.
Have a great journey,
Ton Pascal
Labels: Fear, Fearless, Motivation, Spiritual, “Difficult Times”, “Law of Attraction”, “Life coach”, “Positive attitude”, “Positive support”, “Positive thinking”, “Ton Pascal”
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